Envyitis – Are You Infected?

Social Media is wonderful. I think I’ve said that before. But if I’m pressed to find a flaw (and I’m sure there are a few) I’d say my biggest beef with social media is that I often contract a severe case of Envyitis.

Envyitis – otherwise known as Comparitis and the lesser known Comparus Nogoodus – is defined as an illness that drives you to compulsively compare yourself to others.

Common side effects include: envying other’s accomplishments and neglecting to acknowledge your own, self-pity and an overwhelming sense of hopelessness combined with the desire to give up.

This is true stuff people! You can’t make this up.  😉

No matter how much I’ve accomplished, no matter how positive I’m feeling, direct contact with Envyitis is guaranteed to knock me over and leave me feeling down and out. The trouble with Envyitis is that you just never know when it will strike. It moves in mysterious ways…like the U2 song.

And since the medical community has yet to find a suitable vaccine for Envyitis, it’s up to us to find some home remedies to get ourselves back on track and feeling good. REAL GOOD!

These are some of the home remedies I use to combat Envyitis:

  • Talk with someone you really trust. Preferably someone that won’t blow smoke up your….well, you know. Have this person remind you of your accomplishments. Hearing it from another source is a great way to boost that suffering ego. Envyitis attacks the ego much harder than the rest of your body, so it’s best to start here.
  • Create a list of your accomplishments. Journaling is a great way to let all those emotions pour through you without worrying about being judged. It’s a visual reminder that you’re not sitting there just taking up space. None of us are. Sure we haven’t accomplished everything we want….yet, but we’ve done stuff! Not into a writing? No problem! Create an accomplishment board. Draw or cut pictures out of things you’ve accomplished. Add stickers, and glitter and whatever else makes your heart happy. Note: Journaling is also a great substitute if you don’t have someone you can trust in your life at the moment.
  • Hire a coach. Okay this may look like a shameless plug but hear me out. A coach is someone who will not judge you. They will listen without bias and remind you of all those great things you’ve accomplished. They‘re also a wonderful sounding board, an encourager, brainstorming partner and someone you can trust has your best interest at heart. Always.
  • Unplug from the Matrix. And by Matrix I mean social media. Don’t panic, I don’t mean forever, although I know of people who have done this. I just mean take a break. Remove the Envyitis stimulus and tap back into what’s important. What are your values, your goals, your accomplishments? Celebrate how far you’ve already come!

Now it’s your turn!

How do you combat Envyitis? Share your tried and true remedies below in the comment section.

Together we can beat this!

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8 thoughts on “Envyitis – Are You Infected?

  1. I’ve been thinking about writing a post about this lately. It’s so true that as great as social media is to connect and make friends and spread the word about your art, there is always someone who is doing more. There is always someone with more followers, a higher word count written that day, more books published, higher Amazon rankings, more reviews. It’s exhausting. Right now, since I’m between books, I’m online a lot and just rolling with the emotions of comparing myself to other writers and wondering if I could be doing more. Once I release my next book, I will slowly unplug from social media and retreat into my writing cave. That is the only way I can create without constantly comparing myself to others and wondering if I’m good enough. I think we all feel this strange sense of “envyitis.” It’s silly, but I guess it’s human nature. Thx for writing this post. It’s funny, cause I was talking with a friend about it last night and thinking I should put it out there and see if others are feeling the same way. 🙂

    1. Thanks for the wonderful feedback Sophie. It’s definitely an issue we all deal with but having this knowledge can help us combat this often crippling comparison. Good luck and know that you are never alone 😉

  2. Spot on, as always! Also, I HIGHLY RECOMMEND Angie Richmond as a creative coach. She has been doing wonders for me!

  3. Thanks for this insightful article Angie. Yes, I agree that social media can cause a cluster of symptoms that you have provided a label for “Envyitis”. Your suggestions are great, and I would like to add reframing has been my best defence against this dark ailment. I call to mind Albert Einstein’s words: “Everyone is a genius, but if you judge a fish by it’s ability to climb a tree it will live it’s whole life believing that it is stupid.” This helps me shift my perception, recognize that we all have something to offer, and the envy turns to inspiration!

    1. Thanks Sylvia! That’s a fabulous addition to fighting envyitis. Next time I’m feeling the envy creep on me I’ll be sure to remember you and Enstein. Now how’s that for people to be associated with 😉

  4. It is hard when you ‘know’ so many great writers out there online…you can’t help but compare yourself sometimes, and no matter where we really are in the grand scheme of things we’re always hardest on ourselves. I can find it uplifting and inspiring, and I am genuinely happy for my successful writer friends, but you can sometimes feel demoralised and envious, that’s natural isn’t it?
    I concentrate on being happy for my friends, and allow myself the space to just do my best…isn’t that all we can do?
    I’m also very appreciative of my online friends’ support, which blows me away at times!

    1. It sounds to me, Lisa, that happiness and appreciation play an integral role for you. That is so very important! Space and turning envy into inspiration is a wonderful way to comfort our ego and remind ourself the importance if self care.

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