It’s been a week since I deleted social media off my phone and I can’t tell you what an eye-opener it has been. The first day after The Big Delete I found myself picking up my phone, staring at it blankly and then putting it back down with a confused look upon my face. Checking my phone had become something I did so unconsciously that it shocked me. I’d developed social media muscle memory. That freaked me out.
But gradually I found myself less attached to my phone. I’d set it down and forget where it was. I started seeing – really seeing – the world around me. I felt less anxious. I suddenly had more time. My creativity began to spark and I started writing again. Yay!
So where does that leave things? Well, as a writer trying (desperately) to build a platform, I realize that social media is necessary. Agents and publishers are taking note of those who are winning at building an audience. Yes, I just used a Charlie Sheen quote. Let’s move on. As someone who often feels as if they’re whispering in a crowd of yelly people, I know I have some work to do.
Just as a side note, for those of you who read my blog, interact, like and share – I love you! You make this world feel less lonely. Thank you xo! (Maybe you leave comment now? Yes?)
But what I’ve realized from The Big Delete is that there has to be a balance. Yes, I need and want to use social media to promote and interact with others, but I need to set limits. Facebook is a trigger for me. It sucks my time and energy. While there are loads of great posts from very great people on there, often those important tidbits get lost in the shuffle. I recently read a fantastic post by Kristen Lamb talking about this very subject. She has some really great points on why social media and technology are killing our muse. Go check it out, it’s worth it.
But since this is an update I suppose I ought to get down to business. Below is my social media strategy, which I hope will correct the imbalance.
Oh, how I love to hate Facebook. As I mentioned this is a HUGE trigger for me. While I want to stay connected to my friends/family, I don’t want to fall down The Pit of Lost Time. You know the pit, it’s lined with kitten videos, political unrest and memes a’plenty. It’s sort of like The Pit of Despair but with more furry cuteness.
Verdict: The Facebook app will not be uploaded to my phone. At least for the time being. I’ve yet to check in (though by the time this post is out in the world I might have) but when I do I’ll be limiting this to computer login only and setting a timer. I’m not exactly sure how long I’ll allow for each check, though I’m thinking less than 20 minutes every couple of days.
Of all my social media, I’ve missed this one the most. Twitter has always been fun for me. I’ve met some amazing people who have turned into great friends. I find that using lists and hashtag searches has allowed me to filter out the crap.
Verdict: I will be uploading this app back on my phone. Okay fine, I already uploaded it yesterday. However, like Facebook I will be limiting the amount of time I check in. Let’s go ahead and say twice a day for no more than five minutes each check.
Ugh, this is where things get mucky. Unlike the other two platforms, deciding what to do with Instagram isn’t an obvious decision for me to make. It can most definitely suck away time and trigger me in very unpleasant ways, but I really do enjoying posting photos. And yes, the ability to take a glimpse into someone else’s world is deliciously satisfying in the most stalker-ish way.
Verdict: At this point I don’t have an answer. I fear that uploading the app to my phone right now is too soon. I’ll have to check back on this one in another week or so.
Tell me your thoughts on social media. Do you love or hate it? Do you have balance or are you outta control?
And now my pretties I’m off to write some words. 🙂